We expect ourselves to do way more than anyone else expects of us or we of them. We create ideas of what it means to be a “good mom” or an “involved dad” and we lose track of what really matters- connecting with our children. On our death beds we will not remember what we made for the bake sale or how many activities we carpooled to. We will remember the relationship we built with our children. Take a load off and practice delegating! Applications: Instead of staying up until midnight baking cookies for a class party, buy some from the store. Have mounding piles of laundry? Enlist the help of your partner or children. Questions or thoughts? Let me know!
Children thrive when they feel connected. A loving and supportive relationship is one of the most protective factors as children move throughout their lives. Application: Take a moment today to be present with your child and connect. Give a hug, share words of encouragement, or get on the floor and play with your child. “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” -Leo Buscaglia Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
Children learn from the example of their parents. So if you want to teach your child to take responsibility for him or herself, show how it's done! When you've made a mistake (which we all do!) use it as a teachable moment and take responsibility for your error. Your child will have the opportunity to learn accountability and creative problem-solving. Example: "I had to finish the laundry before we left for soccer" versus "I'm sorry we were late for soccer. Next time I'll make sure to set an alarm to remind me when it's time for us to leave." Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
You’ve all heard of it- the talk. Educating your children about sex and their bodies is not a one time deal. Just like any other value (such as honesty and respect) this topic needs to be revisited again and again throughout your child’s life. Creating a safe, open environment around this topic will encourage your children to come to you with their questions rather than their peers or the internet. Applications: When your child asks you a question about his or her body, give an age-appropriate, truthful answer in that moment. Take advantage of naturally occurring situations to make “the sex talk” an open-ended conversation rather than a one-time lecture. Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
