A big part of protecting our children from abuse is teaching them about healthy boundaries. We discuss good versus bad touches with our children, but we must go one step further in order to truly drive home the point that their bodies are their own- we ourselves must respect their wishes in relation to their bodies. Whether our children are setting a boundary during a game of tickles or goodbyes with grandparents, we must reinforce that no means no and that their boundaries deserve to be respected. Examples: [During a tickle game] “You asked me to stop tickling you, so I’m stopping.” OR [during goodbyes] “You don’t want to give grandpa a kiss goodbye. You can choose to give him a high five o
Bedwetting is common throughout many children’s development. In addition to a number of physical causes, stress and major life changes (such as a move or addition to the family) can also cause bedwetting. What To Do: If you are concerned about your child’s bedwetting, first consult your pediatrician to rule out any underlying conditions. A few practical tips include limiting drinks before bedtime and reminding your child to go to the bathroom at the beginning and end of the bedtime routine. If your child is stressed or has recently experienced a major life change, create the time and space to support your child around these feelings and changes. Above all else, remain positive and patient. B
Wanting to be in control is a a natural desire- it’s something we all want at times. However there are many things that children can’t or don’t have control over. Therefore that need becomes magnified. Take stock of moments that are appropriate for your child to exercise control and create those opportunities. Examples: Create a list of meals your family will have within a given week and allow your child to choose what’s for dinner one night. If you’re having a family movie night, let your child choose between two options. Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
No one likes to be compared to someone else. We are all individuals- with different strengths, interests, and abilities. Unfortunately siblings are often compared to one another (purposely or inadvertently). This can create an environment of competition between siblings and sometimes escalates into resentment and fighting. Many parents think the answer to this dilemma is absolute fairness- equal time spent, equal goodies given, etc. But this can be exhausting to calculate and almost impossible to execute. Treat each of your children as the individuals they are. Show each of your children your unique love for them. Provide encouragement and acknowledge their efforts, feelings, needs, and wish
