One Thing Not to Say and What to Say Instead

When our littles are in distress our natural instinct is to make their pain ago away. We say things like "It's OK," "Don't Cry," or "You'll be fine." We do this with the best of intentions, but we end up communicating to our children that uncomfortable feelings are not acceptable. Instead try validating your child's feelings by making a reflective statement. "That was scary." "You're worried about that." "That hurt a lot."

By making these statements your child will feel heard and understood. This may also invite your kiddo to talk more with you about his or her emotions, which is a great way to release big feelings.