You know when you're in a hurry or frustrated and you rush in to finish something for your child? As mundane as this may seem in the moment, this actually inadvertently creates a missed opportunity for your child to develop skills and build self-esteem. Practice acting as if your child is able to do said task (tying a shoe, clearing his or her plate from the table, etc) and see what happens! Application: If your child is embarking on a task and he or she asks for help (verbally or nonverbally) respond by asking your child to pretend to know how. You'd be surprised at how much of a task your child already understands just by observing others. Even if your child does not master the task, you c
Has your child ever asked you a question you felt totally unprepared to answer? If your answer is yes, you are not alone! Many times in a moment of crisis parents do one of two things: avoid or tell an untruth. This unfortunately will teach your child to search elsewhere for answers. If you want to create honest, open lines of communication with your child- it begins with you! Application: When your child asks one of 'those' questions, first take a deep breath. Then provide your child with a simple, age-appropriate response. I recommend Schaefer and DiGeronimo's book "How to Talk to Your Kids About Really Important Things" Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
Unrealistic expectations can create major stressors for both parent and child. Standards that are too high invite failure and discouragement. Accept your child for who and where they are. Remember- "Earlier is not better. All children accomplish milestones in their own way, in their own time." -Magda Gerber Application: Familiarize yourself with your child's developmental level. I recommend the series by Gesell Institute. Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
Do you feel like you're constantly setting limits and trying to enforce them in your home? Give yourself (and your kiddos) a break by choosing what "fights" you're going to fight. Allowing your child to experience some autonomy will go a long way in easing tensions between parent and child. Application: Make a list of values or expectations that are musts for you. Practice letting go of things that are not on that list. For example, you may choose to let your child pick their own outfit for school, but stand your ground on the no hitting rule. Questions or Thoughts? Let me know!
Did you know that the brain's prefrontal cortex does not fully develop until someone reaches their mid-20's? The prefrontal cortex is better known as our "rational brain" and is responsible for executive functions including regulating emotions, impulse control, weighing consequences, and empathy. Here are some ideas for supporting the development of these skills in your kiddo- Maintain a consistent routine Make sure your kiddo is getting enough sleep Use clear & concise language Positive Discipline Physical activity & exercise Yoga & Mindfulness practices
